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Is obtaining the perfect divorce settlement just a pipe dream?

On Behalf of | Feb 25, 2023 | DIVORCE - Divorce Mediation |

What is your version of a perfect settlement? If it is getting all the high-value assets and complete control of child-related matters, prepare for disappointment. Family courts in New Jersey prioritize fairness and children’s best interests when deciding or approving the elements of a divorce.

Now, say your idea of perfect involves fair access to your kids (custody, parenting time, etc.), a well-balanced property settlement and a relatively quick end to your divorce. These goals respect the rights of everyone and are much easier to achieve, but you can (and should) still give yourself an edge.

Aim high

Getting a divorce means negotiating with your spouse. Otherwise, the court will make your decisions. Consider asking for more than a fair share of property and child access to set a high starting point for your negotiations. Under legal guidance, this approach could result in a settlement that reflects your original expectations.

Educate yourself

Although they look alike from region to region, each state has unique divorce laws. A poor understanding of these rules could compromise your best interests in a divorce. Take time to learn how divorce works in New Jersey. Pay particular attention to property division and child-related laws to protect your final settlement.

Consider mediation

You can reap many rewards by mediating your divorce issues or disputes. For example, mediation usually costs less and concludes faster than litigated divorces. The relaxed and informal atmosphere of mediation offers mental benefits, too, such as less of the stress and anxiety that typically accompanies divorce.

Perfection remains out of reach in divorce, but you can get a satisfactory (or perhaps even ideal) settlement through knowledge, strategy and patience.