Once the emotional intensity of divorce begins fading, it is not uncommon for one parent (or both) to notice shortcomings in their child custody order. You may feel comfortable with your arrangements, but what about your co-parent?
They have a right to fair child access and may ask you about getting more time with the kids. Your initial reaction may be negative, but perhaps a change could benefit everyone. Here are three things to do if your ex broaches the topic of custody modifications.
Ask questions
It is natural to wonder what brought on this request, and as a parent, you may have a right to know. Ask your ex why they want more time to determine their motivation.
Maybe they have merely learned the value of time spent with your children. However, if your questions uncover a more sinister motive, such as using the kids against you, it could indicate a potential problem.
Consider a few things
Could more time with the other parent benefit your children? If your ex is trying to strengthen their bond with the kids, spending more time together could help your children feel more secure.
How will losing a little time with your kids impact you? It may free you up to focus on your needs and expand your social life. Try to consider everything that may happen — positive and negative – if you change the custody order.
Seek another opinion
It can be hard to see things clearly in matters that impact your children. However, an outside opinion may help you look at things more objectively, perhaps revealing the possible risks and rewards of child custody modifications. Having experienced guidance is important in all family law matters that affect your kids.