If you are going through a divorce, you might feel you cannot spare the money for a massage or to go out for drinks with friends. You might feel that your kids need you so much right now that asking someone to take care of them so you can have a day to yourself would be selfish.
Yet setting aside a bit of time and money to look after yourself may be exactly what you need and what others need you to do. Here is why:
#1. You will be more available for your children
A break can refresh you, allowing you to more fully present when you are back with them, instead of just hanging in there exhausted.
#2. You can make more rational decisions
Have you ever entered an important business meeting after a sleepless night? If so, you probably found it much more of a struggle than those you entered well rested.
Divorce is business, despite its very personal nature. You need to be able to think with a clear head about the options on offer to choose the best way to move forward.
#3. You are less likely to be provoked by your spouse’s actions
Most people become tetchy when over-tired. Married couples, in particular, can find fault with each other over issues they would not give a second thought to when well rested.
Working together to reach an acceptable compromise won’t be easy in a divorce. Allowing yourself to react to any little niggles, because you are tired will only make it harder. If you snap at your spouse, they may snap back and before you know it, all the good progress and intentions are out the window and your are back to square one.
The right legal team can relieve some of the divorce burden from you and guide you toward ways to make your divorce less stressful.