Being a good co-parent requires doing what is in your child’s best interests. That will not always be what you want in a particular situation, nor what your co-parent or your children want all the time.
Here are some things it does mean:
#1. A willingness to co-operate
You do not have to like your ex. You do not even need to trust them on everything. Yet, you need to be willing to listen to their needs, demands and opinions and work together to seek a compromise in things related to your kids.
#2. Being flexible
You will create a parenting time plan when you divorce. While you should both stick to it as much as possible, there will be times when that is difficult. For example, your ex is due to pick up the kids at 6 pm each Friday, but this week they have an exam till 7 pm. Insisting that it is not your problem won’t help anyone. You need to work together to find a solution for the sake of your kids. They don’t want to feel like they are a burden or getting in the way of your plans.
#3. Being forgiving
Most couples do each other considerable harm in the months leading up to a divorce, during the divorce itself, and for some time afterward. Letting bygones be bygones and accepting that the stupid comment your spouse made about you is more a sign of stress than their true thoughts about you can help you move on and focus on what is best for your children.
Having help to work together on your divorce is a great way to lay the foundations for a better co-parenting relationship.