Many people feel anxious about protecting themselves as they prepare to leave an abusive marriage, as abuse often escalates during the dissolution of a relationship. People may also worry about leaving their children alone with someone who has demonstrated abusive behavior in the past.
Parents hoping to leave an unhealthy relationship and protect their children often need to start gathering documentation to establish appropriate parenting arrangements. How can parents document domestic violence for the protection of their children?
With official records
Police reports and medical records are among the most authoritative evidence for domestic violence allegations. Unfortunately, those experiencing abuse often do not feel as though they can contact the authorities or seek out medical treatment. They may need other forms of evidence if they cannot rely on official records.
Journals and photographs
Victims of domestic violence can create their own records that can show a pattern of dangerous behavior. Records that detail when and where incidents occurred over weeks or months can help convince the courts to limit an abusive parent’s access to minor children.
People may want to take photographs of their injuries and any injuries sustained by their children. They could also potentially photograph damage to their home or personal property.
Witness testimony
Statements from witnesses who are aware of the domestic violence can be useful. Neighbors, family members, teachers and even health care providers can potentially testify in court and help establish that domestic violence could endanger the children.
Gathering adequate documentation is important for the protection of children who could face abuse in a shared custody scenario. Parents worried about domestic violence may need help navigating divorce and custody matters.