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Staying safe when divorcing an abuser 

On Behalf of | Mar 13, 2023 | FAMILY LAW - Domestic Violence |

Abuse can occur in numerous forms, and sadly, it happens in many marriages. Nobody should have to put up with abuse, whether it be financial, emotional or physical. 

If your spouse has become abusive, then you’re likely looking for a way out. This sounds much easier than it is. It’s rarely as simple as just walking out the door and never looking back. What if you have children together or a family business? Where are you going to go?

Every situation is different, but hopefully, the following information should at least help a little. 

Use support 

If you’re in an abusive relationship, you can soon begin to feel cut off from your friends and family. You may begin to think that they have stopped caring. This is certainly not the case. True friends and family members will be there under any circumstances, particularly when times are tough. Find a safe way to talk to them if you can, and make sure they know the importance of keeping what you say confidential. 

Document the abuse 

Your physical safety is your top priority, so if the abuse ever becomes violent, you should seek emergency services. Reporting abuse immediately is often difficult too though. If you can, try to document each incident, using your phone and camera to document evidence of financial abuse or injuries if possible. It’s vital that you don’t take any risks though, make sure this information can remain confidential until the time that you choose to use it. 

Seek legal guidance

There are people out there who can help you to leave an abusive relationship. Those with experience in family law deal with these types of situations each day. Make sure you seek this type of guidance before commencing divorce proceedings.